It’s me, Sophia. How are you doing? Right now you’re in the midst of your young, careless teenage years. Let’s say…you’re 14 years old. You’re not really sure what you’re doing. You’re just going to school and seeing your friends. From what I remember, you’re probably thinking life is soooo hard. Well, I can tell you one thing – you really don’t have it all that bad doll. But being the oldest of your siblings, cousins, and friend group, you didn’t really have anyone to tell you that or to look up to. You were navigating life and all its teenage troubles blind. So if I could find a time machine, I would go back and tell you a few things.
No, you’re not one of the “popular girls”. Big whoop. Popularity won’t define who you are as a character. And the small group of friends you have right now are going to give you some of the fondest memories that you’ll look back on. Trust me, I reminisce quite a bit about the simpler days. As you grow older, it’s harder to keep friendships because “adulting” gets in the way. So cherish all this time that you’re spending with your friends right now. Plus, college is different from high school. You’ll meet a lot more people that you’ll connect with. Winning popularity contests in high school won’t mean anything down the road. Trust me.
Stop chasing boys. Chase your dreams. I promise you that the boys who will make an impact in your life are the ones that will chase you. SPOILER ALERT! Your best friend that you’ve been mad crushing on will come out to you later in life. And we joke all the time about how that would have worked out had we actually dated! So don’t be too sad that he didn’t kiss you after the dance. 😉 And definitely don’t let boys affect your mood. Seriously. That inconsiderate jock that said “You’re Sophia? You don’t look like the nerd I imagined” outside the bus area (oh yes, I still remember) is going to slide into your DMs later in life. He’s going to act like he’s been such good friends with you all along and want to catch up. Forgive him.
On that note, forgive anyone who has done you wrong. Forgiving and moving on with your life is a lot more simple than holding a grudge. You’re probably beefing with one of your best friend’s girlfriends right now because she won’t let him see you. But would you believe me if I told you that you’d be under her needle getting your first tattoo when you turn 21? Yes, it happened! I’m not telling you to be best friends with the people who have done you wrong. I’m telling you to forgive them and move on with your life because you’ll be much happier without any heaviness in your heart. Life is too short to be bitter.
Oh and the crazy color extensions and finger-less gloves? Yes, this is a phase honey. But! Don’t let anyone humiliate you for wearing what you want to wear. I remember that boy who took off one of your gloves and threw them back and forth with his friends before finally giving it back to you and saying “Next time, don’t wear socks on your arms to school”. I can still feel my face getting hot from being embarrassed in front of the class by one of the most popular guys in the grade. But fuck it. If you are happy with your style, keep slaying it. Your clothes are part of who you are. Even if it is a studded belt and colorful bows in your hair.
These are just a few of the things that I wish you knew. I know some days may seem like the end of the world to you, but you are so much stronger than you think. You will be facing even more difficult obstacles in the future, but you will overcome them. Every experience you have will be a memory as well as a lesson. I’m still learning more and more about who I am every day. But I think I turned out alright. 🙂 Keep being you, Sophia.