Featured photo by Touchaingkong Yang | Designer: Darly Vu
Happy International Women’s Day!
I’ve been meaning to write this post for a while now and figured what better day to do it than today! First and foremost, I want to give a big THANK YOU to all the women who have done great things for us in this unfair world. It’s still a work in progress, but we have made it this far because of all of you. Also, shout-out to all the beautiful Queens in my life. You all have picked up my pieces when I was shattered and praised me when I accomplished great things. Each of you have molded me into the woman that I am today and I am so proud to have you all as the women standing next to me. I don’t know who I would be without any of you. This is why I believe supporting your fellow Queens is so important.
I was hanging out with my roomies one night and we somehow came across the topic of “girl power” when one of my male roommates proceeded to say, “Girls don’t support each other. That’s just not a thing” while one of my female roommates retaliated by saying we do. He brushed it off, unconvinced. Unfortunately, he doesn’t have an unpopular opinion. For some reason, women are seen as catty, jealous, and two-faced more than men are in the media and society. But why?
We should support each other in our passions and strengths. We should encourage each other when faced with a difficult obstacle. We should celebrate each other’s achievements. You can say “I don’t give a fuck what other people think. I’mma do me”, but girl, I know you do. You’re human. And in my personal experience, I care more about what girls think of me than guys. Hearing a fellow Queen tell me that I inspire her or that I’ve helped her in some way fuels my fire. It keeps me going. I got this note on Tumblr a long time ago and I’ve kept it to remind myself that even if no one else is reading, she is. I don’t know her in real life but her words played a huge effect.
We each are beautiful, unique individuals. We all have different passions and hobbies. I have friends that are amazing designers while I can’t sew for shit. I have friends who can belt out notes while I keep my singing contained in car rides (alone). I have friends who can draw. I have friends who can slay their face. I have friends who are athletic as fuck. The list goes on. Do I wish I had these abilities? Sure. Do I get jealous? Of course. But do I bash them for doing what they’re best at? No. I compliment them. I praise them. I support them. They are my friends, not my enemies.
Designer: Darly Vu | Photography by Touchaingkong Yang
Something I’ve seen that girls struggle with a little more is competition. I said we all have different passions and hobbies, but what if we have the same interests? What if she has her own blog too? What if she writes poetry too? What if she models too? I’ll be honest and say that I’ve been guilty of feeling salty towards other girls who were better at the same thing I did. But I learned over time that it wasn’t healthy. I wasn’t happy and I found myself doing things just to try and beat the other girl instead of doing it because I wanted to. A little friendly competition isn’t a bad thing. It’s a great motivator. But we must not lose sight that at the end of the day, we’re each just doing what we love and neither of us should be hated on for it.
2017 VSAM Tet Show – Fashion Show | Coordinators Darly & Sophia
Nothing is stronger than a woman who has a foundation of other strong women. Never underestimate the power of a compliment or encouragement. Support your fellow Queens. Go to their shows. Cheer them on. Buy their merchandise. Support their designs. Read their blogs. Follow their blogs (wink wink). Or even just texting them good luck on whatever they’re pursuing that day. It all goes a long way.
You’re a Queen. But a Queen wouldn’t let another Queen’s crown fall.
Serena Npauj Photography